We never know until we ask. It’s such a powerful thing. It can be scary, because we don’t want to be declined, and may take a rejection personally, but most of the times any rejection has very little to do with us personally.
To take it all a step further into our brains — our brains will also try to stop us from asking by throwing self doubt, insecurities, and more to try to get us to keep the current, predictable, same-old-same-old path. Change is scary to our lizard (fight or flight part of the brain) so it will try to avoid change.
However, change is required with growth, with goals, with ambitions. SOmething needs to change for us to grow. Asking can feel vulnerable, to put out that we need or want something from someone else, but it is also a great strength.
Asking can also mean discovering great partnerships, new leads, new ideas, collaborations. It’s a powerful thing to do.
AND we might actually get what we ask for! So, ask.
Here’s my ask: grab some friends and come get updated headshots, it’s a new season, and you’ve got new energy, let’s show it. I’m also offering a group discount. And a space to hang out and connect, network. Call me today to find out more.
Your image is often your first impression. What does it say about you? About your business? There are so many elements you can use to create a kick butt image for your brand, whether it is for personal or professional use. Some of the key elements I use with clients are body language and expression. Learn about them here and take better photos!
Body Language. How are you standing, posed, how is the image cropped? What angle are your shoulders, hips in relation to the camera? First, hand the phone camera over to someone. Your arm has limited range, you’ll get a better angle if someone else takes the image. Think about how you want to come across: aggressive, confident, or powerful?
- Crossed arms will give a more aggressive/assertive vibe.
- Arms at the side will be more inviting, confident posture
- Hands on the hips is a power pose, and expresses power, confidence, and assertiveness without being aggressive.
Expression. This will always dominate over all else. Getting your intention to show through your expression is not always easy. Here are some tips, focusing on micro expressions. Know what your intention is, and use the best expression for that intention.
- Beware of smirks, they convey ‘contempt’ or ‘disgust’ micro expression
- Men: research has the greatest ‘know-like-trust’ factor is with a straight face or a full smile (not a half smile). Women can get away with small smiles, aka baby smile, and big full face smiles.
- No smile, relaxed expression. This can either show a serious intention, or a calm, relaxed.
- These are the windows to the INTENTION. Remember to engage your eyes. We all have the ability to warm up, lighten up, and/or ‘smile’ with the eyes. Practice in the mirror, and you’ll eventually get it, if you don’t immediately.
Now merge your body language and your expression, have someone take your photo, and see how you do. Keep practicing!
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